No one has learnt everything from his/her mother’s womb

Part-I
As a child, I never bothered anything except studying. My father was bribing me of cycle, watch and many more for getting good marks in school. Later, my father’s responsibility was taken over by my mother and she started bribing me of clothes, rings, chains and more. I used to try my best to get those always. This continued till my 6th grade but then bribing changed into threatening. But when I graduated to my 10th grade, my mother neither bribed me nor threatened me, she just prophesied that “This is the biggest turning point of your life. The marks you score in 10th will have an impact on your life now onwards”. This statement of my mother echoed in my mind always and by God’s grace, I completed my matriculation with good marks. Then came another biggest turning point in my life (again according to my mother), that is, my intermediate phase. My mother repeated the same words that she said me when I was in 10th and I also got focused but then I was confused wondering how many ‘biggest turning points’ will come in my life! Thankfully, I cleared my 10+2 with good grades again.

Then came a phase in my life, which can actually be considered as a turning point in anyone’s life. My father always wanted to see me as an Engineer. As a step to realize his dreams, I enrolled my name in the dept of Info Tech in JITM(my college). Far from home, I stayed in my college hostel. This time, my mother didn’t say me anything and my father also didn’t bribe me, as he used to do when I was a kid but then he just said, “You are not a kid now. You have to judge your Do’s and Don’ts, but be careful LIFE is not easy all the time”.

A career in engineering started taking its shape. Got in touch with many people… faculties, seniors and friends. Being new to the field, we really had a tough time but then our seniors used to say, “1st and 2nd years are a bit hard but later, one can clear papers by studying one night just before the exam”. Keeping that in mind, I started studying with all my best efforts and those two years went really well. Then 3rd year came with many other challenges. Placements in reputed companies were the point of focus then. Somehow, I was good in technical analysis and general aptitude due to which some of my friends used to tease me saying, “ Yaar, you don’t have to worry about placements. You have 1st class career. Apti and technical to tujhse chutki me ho jayega. Anyways congratulations, you are going to be placed on 0 day only”. Finally the ZERO day came. ZERO day means, the 1st on campus held in college. We had SATYAM as our 1st company, somewhere around 2nd or 3rd of February in 2008 (I don’t remember the dates exactly).

The process went on for two days. I cleared my written on the 1st day itself and appeared the interviews on the2nd day. The results were announced in the evening and I felt the HARDEST slap in my life!!! I was not selected, which literally depressed me. Some 47 students got through it and I was not one of them! And again ‘sone pe suhaga’, there was a rumor that I fainted during the interviews. But let me clarify, that was not me! That was one of our batch mates. I have never fainted in my life except 3rd May, 2010 and that too, because of weakness. Anyways, some times I don’t care what people say behind me, if that is not so serious!

That slap echoed in side my mind for two days and I cried my heart out! My friends tried comforting me by sending many inspirational messages, from which one of my favorite is ------“Every bad situation will have something positive. Even a stopped clock is correct twice a day. Think of this and lead your life.”-------- I realized that I am not going to get anything by being upset, instead I should try to polish my skills in every possible way. That was not an easy task, I was expected to learn many things but within a stipulated time period. Thankfully, friends were there to help me. I realized, only studying is not everything, I need to bring the best out of me in terms of academics, attitude and personality! I focused on that. Meanwhile, I also appeared many on-campuses and off-campuses. I tasted struggle for the first time! Finally, I got through two companies and thought that was the end, but fate had something else for me! RECESSION popped into the market and the companies had to reject the offers!

(Sorry for making this post long. You can continue to next post)

Part-II

Meanwhile, I graduated as an Engineer in 2009 and came out with good grades. The fun, the happy days were terminated in no time! I came back home. Initial days were good enough but then comments from relatives and neighbors became harsher day by day. I tried making them understand about recession but it was of no use and finally, I started ignoring them. I didn’t give my heart a chance to weaken. I tried coming to Bangalore but situation didn’t permit me. I started preparing for GATE 2010 at home. I had my exam in February. Meanwhile, my sister’s marriage was fixed in January. So I had to swap my timings for preparations of my sister’s marriage as well as my exam. I was done with both the marriage and exam; it was time for results. Results were declared and I secured good percentiles too, but that was of no use. I couldn’t make through IITs and NITs. So I thought of dropping the idea of my Masters.

On 4^th of April, I came to Bangalore. A new girl in the city! Everything was new for me, but thanks to Pragyan (a friend of mine), for making me acquainted with the city. Then I met many of my college friends, who were in Bangalore in search of job. Day by day, I started loving this city more. The huge buildings of the companies established by the road side, the big bungalows, the Volvo buses(with AC), the flyovers (always reminding me of various video games on races), the paintings on the walls depicting the culture and tradition of Karnataka have started fascinating me gradually! Moreover the lush green trees and the peaceful environment here, sometimes take me to a different world! The only thing I don’t like about this place is the traffic! But somehow, this can be ignored for all the above positive points.

Coming to the struggle part in the big city, I travelled alone and found places for appearing exams all on my own. Once I wasted money on a stupid consultancy which didn’t bother about me after getting money but then I learnt from my mistakes and promised not to throw away money at these consultancies blindly. I registered myself in many job sites. Many a times, these free job sites also led me to some fake companies. Once I went with my friends and we came to know that the information was fake. I proposed the idea of returning hostel, but they said,” No”. When I asked them the reason, they asked me, ”Have you 4- 5 copies of CV with you?”. I said,” Yes I have”. Then they said me to follow them. I did the same. They went to the companies built on the roadside, asking the same thing to all of them. The conversation was like this….

“Is it an IT company?”

If no, then “Thanks a lot for your time”.

If yes, then the conversation has some more weight,

” is there any vacancy for software people?”

Without bothering about any reply, they were simply handing CVs to the receptionist saying,

“These are our CVs, if you have any vacancy then please do mail us or call us on our cell phone. Thank you”

I was really amused by that conversation. This distribution of CVs reminded me of those days when one had to circulate leaflets of Ma Tarini or Shirdi Baba so that his wishes can be fulfilled (as a custom believed in our region). But when I was getting those leaflets, I had avoided and thrown them. I think the same might happening with job givers too. How many CVs they will see? On that day my CV must have tried to get into their dustbin, but unfortunately that might have spilled.

One day my ex-room mate sent me an email regarding some vacancies in Tech-Mahindra, so I applied for that. I waited for around 15days to get some response from them and finally got a mail that I have my written and technical round on 9^th May. Amid I had registered for MeritTrac (a famous consultancy) and I got a mail for that exam too, whose date was the same as Tech Mahindra’s but with different timings! MeritTrac was at 9.00 am and Tech-Mahindra was at 3.00 pm. On the very day, I was quite stressed of the pressure as the MeritTrac exam started at 10 am and continued for 3 hours, I didn’t get an auto-rickshaw while returning and on top of that, two of my college friends were waiting to see me. It was a bit hectic to handle but finally I met them and reached at Tech-Mahindra office before time. I found, all were in formals except me as I forgot about the technical test and anyhow if some one is clearing the written test then only can appear the technical round. So I thought of focusing on the written test. After 1 hour of test and ½ hour of halting, results were out and I did clear that. I felt, I would be thrown from the technical round as they would take me as not so serious about this job (I wasn’t dressed up in formal). But thankfully the rounds got postponed and I had my technical and HR on 13^th May (this time I wore formals).

When I reached the office on 13^th, I came to know that I have to appear for three rounds. I was wandering what the rounds would be. One may be technical, second may be HR and third????? After completing the first round, I was wondering which round it was. The answer might be the third one which I was unable to think of, “A mixture round”. Anyways, results came… “Selected in 1^st round, be prepared for 2^nd round”. I imagined if the 1^st round was so tough, then what would be the other rounds! But it does not mean that what ever we imagine should always been right. Due to lack of time or what I don’t know, but the next two rounds were easy. After being done with all the rounds, I sat in a hall with other candidates. The result was being announced one after another .When I heard that the guy who had completed his rounds just before me, was not selected, my heart started beating fast. There was a girl beside me whose heart was competing with mine and I was saying her “All Z Well” (thank god I have seen the movie 3 idiots, which is helping me all the time). Then we both heard the result …… SELECTED….(hurrayyyyy), we congratulated each other and thanked God! Then I called my parents and messaged my friends (as my cell phone was fighting with charge)…. I was really happy! Finally I got through one where I can join as a software engineer (previously I got through a KPO in Bangalore).

After a two months of waiting finally I got the joining letter and I am going to join on 30^th july.

No one has learnt everything from his/her mother’s womb. Life is a learning process. Each time we fall we get some experience. And as we all know… “ALL IS WELL”

A small passage from a novel "The Zahir"

suppose that two firemen go into a forest to put out a small fire. Afterwards, when they emerge and go over stream, the face of one is all smeared with black while the other man's face is completely clean.

so here the question is: which of the two will wash his face ?

think for a while...

i know most of you are answering as"the one with the dirty face of course".

'no, the one with the dirty face will look at the other man and assume that he looks like him. And, vice versa, the man with the clean face will see his colleague covered in grime and say to himself: i must be dirty too. i'd better have a wash'.

so friend, i dont think here to conclude some thing becoz i know, u would find by urself. its from the novel "The Zahir" By Paulo Coelho....thought to share wid u....

"Do not tell people how to live their lives. Just tell them stories and they will figure out how those stories apply to them."

Now in Twittering World

The GATE result will be published about on 15th march until then i don't have any exams to prepare further and honestly saying let me free from study materials for at least some days. i am afraid of sitting in front of TV from Mon-Fri because most of channels are providing serials and which my mother prefers (she is a home maker and i am happy that she keeps herself busy on watching serials than having a common lady chat with neighbors) i can't interrupt her. Completed Novels that i had. some" prabochan" programs are going on near our home but don't want to increase the quantity of people over there without a single interest( i know about Dharma Gyan, Karma Gyan....and not more yaar, excess is very bad). Don't have much friends here, most are in outside and some have got married. Not interacting with my cousins because they are having exams.

So the only option thats on my hand is Internet and its an ocean.let me talk about social networking sites. we all know there are many more and from them i think orkut, facebook, twitter and so on are famous. I have already an orkut id and have got many invitations from friends for other sites too. But as now i got time to look on that i thought to enter the twitter. i entered into one of my friend's invitation and got account on twitter. As i was new to this site i got confused but thanks to help tag of that web page i cleared my doubt. i saw my friend's page. i found Burka Dutt, AB and many more great person's profile of whom my friend was the follower. And do you know friend by roaming here and there i found junior bachchan's profile...oh my God....i still remembered the day when i was the craziest fan of him and always searching his email id and about his life in google search engine.( hey friends don't be astound on auxiliary verb "was". yes i was a craziest fan of Jr. Bachchan, but now i am just a fan and a well wisher)......

its not only AB or BDutt, i found many good personalities in twitter and now enjoying it a lot...and yes now i am in twittering world...... hope i will get time to enter in facebook too as i have heard a lot about this site from friends. so friends if u too get time then enjoy it...

Where der s a will, der s a way.....

18th February, its my birth day...i have always tried to make it quite special, some times yes i was able and some times am not.some of my birth days are quite memorable and some i do not remember at all.when i was in school, this day was as normal as other day, except giving chocolates to all...and celebrating in the evening at home.when i went to college and lived in hostel it was quite enjoyable, the main thing was we were celebrating bday from night, cutting cakes, getting bday bombs but it was less as compared to boys, as boys cant even wake up from bed on their bday bcoz of bday bombs,again i was celebrating in class, getting so many gifts and so and so....

but this time i m not a student of any school or college nor even an employee or worker...and again i was not at home . i had gone to bbsr for appearing GATE exam which was on 14th feb but i had to be der for 4 more days becoz of some work. at 17th night i had switched on my mobile so got wishes from friends. i had planned to watch the movie MNIK in the morning......but when i woke up in the morning i felt lonely, no friends were der to celebrate with me and no family members at all. though i was in a hostel of bbsr, no one of hosteler knew me except two and those two were busy on their work. i had to cancel my plan of watching movie in hall,

i was feeling as if i am going to have a worst bday in my life.. but suddenly i thought of doing something good....i thought to donate blood but i knew no one is der to take care of me,then thought to go to an anath ashram, but i dont know much about places of bbsr, i asked the guard of that hostel regarding ashram but he did nt know, i asked some of hostelers also but dey said they dont know. i felt my plan again going to be cancelled,

then i said my self that......... where there is a will, there is a way......... i suddenly thought of calling an auto bala whose number was with me, he gave an address of ashram but he was unable to take me there with him becoz of his another work,then i called another auto bala, Bulu bhaina..he took me near ashram the name was SOS children's village, better to say it was not an ashram, it was looking like a park from outside, i was confused. when i reached near gate i found no one. then i entered into the place and a guard came afterwards. i talked to him regarding children over ther and found it was a Govt. association. all children had gone for studying. some were studying in english medium and some in SSVM..

then i asked guard to give address of an ashram and i found one near Khandagiri, The " Jeevan Jyoti" ashram. i went into der and firstly my eyes falled on a small girl, who seems having some disease. then a madam came and asked me who am i... i introduced myself to her and got about her too. she is a staff of that ashram....... the ashram had started in 2005. they take orphan child and look after them.their aim is to serve the deprived section of the society........

i met all children,as i had gone there in the afternoon some had slept on two stair bed and some slept on ground and others had gone to school....there i met a child who was unable to talk and walk. i asked that madam regarding that child and came to know that, child had been packed in a

polythene and thrown in a drain.... it was really pathetic. anyways now that child is fine near care of that madam.i talked to all there, they were calling me as Apa. at 3.30 pm other children returned from school. they gave me flowers and they danced also. One teacher has been assigned for teaching dance to them and they were really dancing well...and finally i had to say them bye becoz i had to return to home at that night.. i donate a little amount and promised myself to help further... i took out their web id and i.e www.jeevanjyotiashram.org

i wish the children will have a happy life in their future.

live life 2 d fullest becoz u get it only once.....

Stop Being A Glass. Become A Lake!

Once the Master instructed the unhappy student to put a handful of salt in a glass of water and then to drink it. ..........
"How does it taste?" the Master asked.
Awful," said the student. The Master then asked the student to take another handful of salt and throw it in the lake. The two walked to the nearby lake and when the student swirled his handful of salt into the lake, the master said,
"Now drink from the lake." The student did so and the Master asked, "How does it taste?" Good!" remarked the student. "Do you taste the salt?" asked the Master. "No, said the student. The Master sat beside this troubled student, took his hands, and said,

"The pain of life is pure salt; no more, no less. The amount of pain in life remains the same, exactly the same. But the amount we taste the 'pain' depends on the container we put it into. So when you are in pain, the only thing you can do is to enlarge your sense of things.....

Stop being a glass. Become a lake!"

R u in LOVE

When you are together with that special someone, you pretend to ignore that person. But when that special someone is not around, you might look around to find them.At that moment, you are in love.

Although there is someone else who always makes you laugh,your eyes and attention might go only to that special someone.Then, you are in love.

Although that special someone was supposed to have called you long back,to let you know of their safe arrival, your phone is quiet. You are desperately waiting for the call!At that moment, you are in love.

If you are much more excited for one short e-mail from that special someone than other many long e-mails,you are in love.

When you find yourself as one who cannot erase all mails or SMS messages in your phone because of one messagefrom that special someone, you are in love.

When you get a couple of free movie tickets, you wouldnot hesitate to think of that special someone.Then, you are in love.

You keep telling yourself, "that special someone is just a friend",butyou realize that you can not avoid that person's special attraction. At that moment, you are in love.

While you are reading this, if someone appears in your mind,then u are in love with that person...;))